This is the part of the week where I normally post some blogging tip or trick that I think you’ll find useful. If you’re looking for those, click here. If you’re okay with me stepping up on my soapbox for a minute, keep reading.

This year’s BlogHer’14 was a mixed bag for me. Spending time with my ah-mazing blogger friends? Awesome. Brand reps who were mostly uninterested or unengaged? Not so awesome. Kerry Washington as a keynote speaker? Well, I’m currently binge watching on Netflix if that tells you anything. So yeah. I’m all over the place with that.

The one negative thing I just can’t seem to shake is this photo (or, really, its caption), posted on Instagram the last day of the conference.

There are a few things that disturb me about this post (which has since been deleted from IG).

• I am a fan of Khloe Kardashian . . . for Khloe Kardashian. I mean, does it really matter how she came into the public spotlight? She’s still a real person and deserves to be treated as such.
• The blogger that posted this image was chosen to HOST a party at BlogHer this year. It seems uncool for her to publicly shame someone making an appearance on behalf of an official conference sponsor.
• One of the comments on the photo was written by a person who considers herself a feminist and is known as a leader in the field of social media. This IG post is decidedly un-feminist in my opinion and, quite frankly, I’m disappointed in the support she threw it’s way.
• The photo caption included #keepingupwiththekardashians, a hastag with 80,000+ posts attributed to it on IG alone, as well as the official BlogHer’14 hashtag. Someone with the social media following of this blogger knows the power of a hashtags in general and those hashtags in particular.
• I wasn’t willing to wait in line to meet Khloe, but I did hang out at the booth across the way (with the nice folks from CJ who were neither uninterested nor unengaged) so I could snap a pic. Not your thing? Fine, but there’s no reason to be a jerk about it.

Not long after that first post, another photo appeared. And I still can’t decide which is worse.

Because, really, what living creature deserves to be referred to as “that shit”.

It’s just so . . . disappointing. Everyone is entitled to an opinion, of course. I just feel like, as women who blog, we have a responsibility to be a little nicer, set a better example, do the right thing even when we’d rather not. And, you know, maybe these posts were just that blogger being real for a minute, but I have my suspicions given the high traffic hashtags that were used.

So I guess my message here is that we probably all need to stop and think a minute before posting. Ask yourself if you’d be okay with someone posting what you’re about to post in reference to you or your friend or your child. If not, maybe it’s better kept between you and your besties.